Unnamed Podcast 24

Only 54 seconds long, but every word is true.

I need to be sad.

I wanted to write a very long, and important, post today. I got about half way through when I realized something: it was missing the bite that I had envisioned in my head.

I had this whole monologue about the importance of feeling important. I had a conversation with someone who said that I made them feel like I was the only person who cared most days, and I thought that I was just having a nice conversation with them. I am not a great person, but in that moment, I was the best person they had ever met.

The post I had envisioned was self deprecating, biting, and funny. I had this whole bit about how amazing you are, and how everyone should be treating everyone how they should be treated, not just how they think that they should be treated. I had this concept on how I wanted to show how you should be treated. I had diagrams and pictures and ideas for an interview and…

THEN I WOKE UP AND HAD A GOOD CONVERSATION.

It turns out that I need to be not happy to write anything good. NOT DEPRESSED, but not happy. When I’m not happy, I am willing to be a little darker. I find myself funnier, or failing humour, more interesting. When I am depressed, I’m just a fucking mess, but not happy: it’s more fun to read!

At least, that’s the way I look at my stuff. I have reread stuff that I have written when happy, and I hate all of it. Even when I’m in the same mental state I was in when it was written, I find it boring and uninspired. Even this post I find scattered and annoying.

Maybe I’m manic? I shouldn’t self diagnose. I read far to into different quirks and states of mind when I do that. It’s almost like I become a mental hypochondriac when looking into mental health stuff.

PushingUpRoses did a fantastic video on youtube talking about BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder). The video is great. My stupid brain was all “I HAVE THAT” until I remembered that I don’t. I know I have friends who have a variation of BDD, and they should really watch that video. Actually, I think anyone who has any interest in mental health should really look into that video. Especially if you think you know everything about mental health, watch that I remember that you know nothing.

For example, I know enough about mental health to admit that I know absolutely nothing, and I think that is a good thing to admit.

Argue better.

Yeah, I’m going to continue on with me bitching about how people talk to each other.

I was having a conversation with my friend Roxanne, and we got discussing the “whataboutism” in regards to the government refuting allegations of systematic racism in our past. He compares us directly to the United States, then refers to how we are not as bad as them.

In making such a ridiculous argument, he basically says that racism is okay if there is someone MORE racist than you. (one of many articles.)

It got me watching an old Idea Channel video (link.), which I highly recommend. In the video, the presenter outlines several examples of argumentative fallacies that are common, especially on the internet.

I am not, like the presenter makes clear that he is not, stating these are intentionally done. God knows, I am notorious for presenting rebuttals in similar ways, noting the “Strawman” in particular. It is, however, important that we notice these in our arguments and try to avoid them.

The only functional way to avoid making these stupid, stupid arguments that I have come up with is to take your point stand-alone. Consider if it can be refuted. Also, consider if you want to have a discussion, or just harpoon the whole conversation.

Having arguments, like the ones detailed in the video, do NOT win arguments. They do NOT change minds. They do, however, stop the argument from spiralling into a pissing match. They can also cause a pissing match that functionally ends the conversation.

Roxanne and I had quite the excellent conversation surrounding the topics of censorship, gender politics, and company responsibility. I am still deconstructing bits of it, but I am sure that I have enough material in that conversation for at LEAST one more blog post.

Roxanne: I am not sorry.